2 Questions to Ask To Realign With Your True Self

Written by Jess Mangum

Jess Mangum is a seasoned mystic, medium, healer, and mentor. She guides and supports other healers and intuitives in identifying and strengthening their gifts, fulfilling their soul’s purpose, and catapulting their Higher Self in connection with the Divine Source to the next level of awareness. She is a healer’s healer.

April 29, 2024

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2 Questions to Ask To Realign With Your True Self

Often we go through life thinking we are one type of personality or another – this comes either through our ego or by way of other people’s observations of our behavior. We are labeled; we label ourselves. We remain stagnant in the idea that we ARE what we are labeled. We become comfortable in this place, this idea.

Then someone pulls the rug – you lose a job, you can’t stand your job and need change, you get in a nasty fight and it ends a friendship or even a marriage. Whatever it may be, someone or some thing attacks who you ARE, and you shut down. You don’t know who your true self is anymore.

It is during these moments that we are tested. So my questions, when this happens (because inevitably it does) are:

  • What do you do with this change in your “label”?
  • How do you handle rejection, defeat, and feelings of uselessness?

My favorite cover-up is to eat chocolate and gorge on anything fried I can get my hands on. That hasn’t worked out too well for me in the past, though. Bummer, right?

So, let’s begin with question number 1: What do you do with this change in your “label?”

Many of us think that we need to remain in the same place to feel safe and know our true self; however, it is the discomfort in changing our mindset on who we think we are that allows the opportunity for growth. If we don’t grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually, we become stagnant. Our thinking becomes black and white, right and wrong. In theory, there is nothing “wrong” with thinking linearly – but, it keeps us from allowing our true self the freedom we deserve to be who we were born to be. If we allow it in ourselves, we will be more accepting of it in others. This acceptance across the board is exactly what this world needs. And, the toughest pill to swallow is that it starts with us as individuals.

Question 2: How do you handle rejection, defeat, and feelings of uselessness?

Get back up on the horse that threw you! I remember my friend and wife-of-my-former-boss reminding me to do this. We don’t necessarily need to jump back up on that same horse, but anytime we get a “slap in the face,” it’s a wake-up call. It’s time for change. We can point the finger and tell everyone else that it’s THAT person! They don’t know what they’re doing! This is NOT about me (and in most cases, it’s not). Regardless, rejection, defeat, and uselessness all come back to this: What change we can make within ourselves?

We can choose another course of action. And it’s typically this new path that leads us closer to our Original Purpose and true self in the first place.

So, really, who we ARE is a mystery. Chocolate and French fries are a good temporary fix, but the trick to deeply understanding our purpose stems from going with the flow as opposed to pushing against it. Acceptance. When things don’t feel right, it’s totally normal. It stinks! But look at it this way: it just means we need to return to our happy place – start journaling, drawing, cooking, whatever brings the most joy. Make the time to be creative in your world.  When life feels “right,” when we are happy where we are, when we are eager to greet the day, it is because our soul and spirit are doing what they were created to do. And THAT is who we ARE.

Biggest lesson: We are all a necessary, functioning, purposeful piece in this puzzle; we all play such a vital role. If nothing else, remember this. 

I’ve suggested this previously, and I’ll suggest it again.  Maybe it’s time to revisit processing the following for your own self-clarity:

1. Who AM I? (Big, gaping question here.  Think about what you inherently loved to do as a child.)

2. What do I WANT? (Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually)

3. What do I NEED? (Same)

4. What do I DESERVE? (Same)

Hugs and strength,

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