As part of my process when I’m about to write, I tend to focus on patterns amongst my clients, the vast majority of whom are empaths and healers. Recently I’ve noticed that many are feeling depleted, exhausted by loved ones around them who ask for advice, but do not heed. Instead they dance to the “broken record tango”: Help me! But stop telling me what to do.
On my morning walk where I clear, ground, and channel in the fresh air, I inquired:
Why do healers seem to gravitate toward people who tend to drain their energies?
The healer’s role is, of course, to heal. The hardest part is letting go when the receiver is not ready to receive. The greatest aspect of healing is within the willingness of the recipient. However, there’s no point in wasting valuable energy pushing a rock uphill when it’s consistently looking for a way to roll back down.
We step into the role of a healer before our souls are conceived, agreeing to come back and serve our purpose. And because healers must understand the pain of human suffering in order to relate to those they support, not all, but most, grow up with a handsome helping of childhood trauma. As a result, some identify themselves as a “victim” or “warrior”, but this implies a sort of powerlessness or overpowering, neither of which are real; we all are blessed with the power of God, the Universe. This is a Truth.
So, as is with what I call the Mirror Theory, the healer will “fix” someone else as a means of repairing the damage from their own childhood, unbeknownst to them. In fact, when they step back and observe, they will notice that the people in their sphere tend to possess similar traits as reflected in those childhood traumas (i.e. – narcissism, manipulation, alcohol and drug abuse, etc.).
What can the healer do?
The healer must first heal themselves. As per “A Course in Miracles”: When I heal myself I am not healed alone.
Notice patterns of control. Look for similarities in the people you associate with who consistently hurt you physically, emotionally, or mentally.
Ask with deliberation, calling in my energy, Mother Mary, Raphael, Michael, Metatron to see or sense what needs to be healed within you. Through intentional meditation, we will clear and help you let go of what no longer serves you. In this meditation, you may sense tingling in your body, pressure, or more light through the third eye. Just observe, and let your body rest.
When you feel you’ve finished, reflect on your experience through journaling. Write down what you saw, felt, heard. If you fall asleep, that is OK. The work will still be done. Just repeat that God’s will be done for as you heal, so you can heal the world.
Finally, regarding people in your periphery who are not ready to listen or heal with your help, send them light from above. Ask that God, the Angels and Ascended Masters assist where you cannot. Do not let your ego tell you that you have failed; the ego is tricky and will try to suck you back into the pattern of control (or the broken record). If you need to, write that person a letter of love and gratitude for teaching you what you need to learn, and then burn the letter.
Go in Peace.
For those of you who are expanding, looking to connect with these energies (Angels, Ascended Masters, your Higher Power), my mentor always told me to repeat the name of the being you want to connect with three times in your mind space. When you feel a sense of calm, you will know they are there.
So much love,