Have you ever completely misconstrued what someone else said about or to you, and it totally killed the day or the relationship?  I recently had an experience where a dear friend of mine said something that, when I pondered over it (somewhat obsessively, I admit), I thought to myself: My friend means to really hurt me.  Why?

I was upset for days, and every time I asked my guidance how I should respond, they said, “Do nothing.”  Until one morning, after one month or so of reflecting, I awoke and heard, “It is time.”

I sat at my computer and wrote.  I called in my inner guidance from a state of clarity and love.  In that place of neutrality and peace, I was able to “see” the scenario from a place of omnipresence and wisdom.  I wish I could always live in this space when I talk to everyone, but alas, I am human.  Grr.  Within minutes, my friend wrote me back apologizing and explaining that they never meant to hurt me.  As a result, I love and respect this person even more.  The relationship peacefully and divinely strengthened.

This is not always the case, however.  There are times where the person backlashes.  When that happens, I have come to learn it is best to cut cords as opposed to trying to “fix it” over and over again.  To help me release, I practice Ho’oponopono and I release the other to the angels.  This is very challenging for me, admittedly, because I want to be spiritually close to everyone!  But, and this is what I am channeling right now as I type,

“Some come to teach us lessons and then go.  Others come to grow with us and learn collectively.  We choose who we want to surround ourselves by, in the knowing that all energies around us are here to serve us as we serve them in love.”

Five Steps on Divine Timing:
1.  Do not react or respond until emotionally calm.  Note: If you still feel even subtle anger/hurt emotions, it is not time.  Helpful tool: Ho’oponopono (see attached document)

2.  Try to see the other side, the other perspective – and if it still doesn’t make sense, make something up!  Case in point: I struggle on the road when someone behind me is riding my tail.  Instead of getting angry and slamming on the breaks (instant pleasure), I say to myself, “Wow, they really have to go poop,” or “They must be in labor.”  Whatever works – the more comical, the better.

3.  When it is time to say something to clear your side of the slate, call in your guidance. Our guidance “speaks” when we are at peace, when we have surrendered our fears.  We “hear” our Higher Self when we are almost in a trance state.  Check out automatic writing (great tool).

4.  If your friend/family member does not respond or responds from a place of attack, you have your answer. We cannot please everyone.  But we can allow those energies into our lives who reflect love and respect.  If this is something you find particularly challenging right now, manifest (ask for) your “soul group.”

5.  Carry on with grace and acceptance.  Cut cords if it is time to let the person/lesson go.  Tips on cutting cords: Doreen Virtue.

And remember some wounds take longer to heal.  Allow the Powers that Be to step in and help.  Quick fixes are rare.  If we act too fast based on hurt emotions, we are more likely to scar long-term, though all hurts can be healed.

With that I send all sorts of love, courage, growth in your direction.  I am setting that intention within this blog for all who read.  And if self-empowerment and manifestation is something you wish to learn more about along your present journey, I will be conducting a workshop on May 19 at Sanctuary Imports alongside my friend and spiritual colleague, Barbara Kahn.  See information below, and email me if you would like to register.

So much love to you,
Jess