We might think this blog is about “pain” and, in a sense, it is. It’s about cleaning up a friendship or connection and, as a result, healing ourSelves. It’s about FORGIVENESS.
To some, a lack of forgiveness in our world equals “power” to some degree. We assess that if someone fears us or if they have somehow done us wrong, we can use that to retaliate against them. This is not helpful, nor is it healthy, for the soul. We all know this as an elemental truth – if not on a conscious level, at least on a super subconscious one. The super subconscious mind is the part of the collective consciousness to which we are ALL connected. We may try to escape it but, my friends, it is an impossibility as the collective consciousness is the eternal.
In a semi-meditative state, I asked how we can learn the importance of practicing forgiveness and letting go. What I heard from my guide, William:
We must be ready. We must start with meditation at the deepest aspect of our heart and soul. A meditation to get beneath what we feel is “truth” – a meditation that reminds us of what we truly want. And what any human being wants at the very core of their being is PEACE.
Are you ready?
There may be individuals in your life that you simply cannot forgive at this time. If that is the case, start by writing them a letter. The contents should include:
1. Why you love(d) them
2. Why you dislike(d) them
3. What your desired outcome for your relationship would be (or would have been if they have passed)
4. If applicable, add to the end a note to your inner child that it is time to let go of his/her shield of protection. Often we linger at certain ages where and when we have been hurt. As adults, it is our opportunity to clear and heal such wounds.
So, what can we do on a daily basis to begin practicing the art of FORGIVENESS, particularly toward those we might consider “enemies” or “arch nemeses?”
1. In general, stop talking about others irrationally. This means that if someone has wronged you, process it yourself through journaling and reflection or with the help of a professional.
2. Begin searching for the core of the hurt. Wounds have layers of protection all around them, like a tiny shard of glass or a splinter in your finger that never makes its way out. Some wounds are so deep we forget we even have them until we are triggered – until we touch that sensitive spot in just the right place.
3. Don’t use your wounds as your “life story.” Sometimes we become so immersed in what someone does or doesn’t do that it becomes who WE are. Example: “My father used to verbally abuse me” or “My mother hit me once…” and we become the “victim.” And that becomes the reason to let that wound fester. We look toward vengeance or escape/ignorance. The first is false karma (karma is not about revenge) and the latter is mere turning the other cheek, sweeping under the carpet.
4. In your centered self and whenever possible, be on good terms with anyone and everyone. You certainly don’t want to bump into someone you have bad-mouthed in public. The conversation, you’ll observe, becomes superficial.
5. Look for the “good” in others. As you do, so will you see it in yourself.
With that, I wish you all the love and strength in the world to step into your Higher Self – the YOU you came here to BE. If you are looking to advance your spiritual studies consistently, it is what I mentor. Reach out. I’m not going anywhere anytime soon! Also, take a look at “A Course in Miracles 2020” (ACIM) classes that I will be offering starting next year. It’s a year look at YOU!
First intro to the ACIM 2020 class will be held by Zoom. Details below in upcoming events.
Sending LOVE always,